One of the most vulnerable times in a person’s life is when they have experienced the death of a loved one. The Farley Street Baptist Church Bereavement Ministry exists to help these individuals through a difficult time in their lives and let them know that their Farley Street Family cares for them and loves them.
Having the right support makes all the difference and the Bereavement Ministry is here to help people through the grief cycle. Providing a meal to the family who experienced a loss is an excellent idea, but that is only the beginning. The committee members ensure contacts are made over the course of the following year. The Bereavement team also provides literature and personalized letters to the bereaved.
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People often ask: “What should I do”, “What should I say”, “Am I doing the right things”, “Am I doing the wrong things”?
We reccomend the following suggestions regarding help for the person in grief:
a phone call, postcard, bake or deliver food. Don’t let fear or uncertainty stand in the way of making contact and being a friend.
Provide practical help
It’s usually not enough to say, “If there’s anything I can do, let me know.” Decide on the task you can help with and make the offer.
Be available and accepting
Accept the words and feeling expressed, avoid being judgmental or taking their feelings personally, avoid telling them how they should feel or what they should do.
Be a good listener
Many in friend need to talk about their loss; the person, the related events, and their reactions. Allow the griever to tell their stories and express their feelings. Be patient and accepting of their expressions.
Give bereaved people “permission” to grieve for as long or short a time as needed. Make it clear that there is no sense of urgency when you visit or talk. Remember, there are no shortcuts.
Encourage self care
Encourage bereaved people to attend to physical needs, postpone major decisions, allow themselves to grieve and recover. At the same time, they may need your support in getting back into activities and making decisions.
Model good self care
It’s important for you to maintain a realistic and positive perspective, to maintain your own life and responsibilities, and to seek help when you feel overwhelmed or don’t know how to handle a situation.
Five stages of grief/loss
Denial and Isolation